The Best Tool To Deal With Turmoil

Have you noticed how much turmoil there is in the world right now? I can’t keep track anymore of all the floodings, shootings, economical problems and political tensions that we see around us.

Also in the private lives of people there is a lot of turmoil. Who doesn’t have relationship issues, financial problems, health problems or situations at work?

What about you? Getting your share of turmoil as well? If so, have you wondered how you will be able to deal with all this in a more comfortable way?

One of the best tools I ever used

It was in 2005, that I first heard of this tool when I was invited through a channel with Tobias, to start accepting all things as they are. Initially, I thought that he was a little crazy because this is the most unnatural thing to do. I was so used to judge things, people, circumstances and fight for what I felt was right and resist what was wrong, that this didn’t make any sense to me.

He explained however that I had to learn to accept all things if I wanted to transcend duality, right versus wrong, light versus dark, and become a more effective creator of my own reality and he offered me a tool to help me with that. It would become one of the best tools I ever used.

What was this tool he talked about?

Stand behind the short wall

At first it sounded a little strange: “stand behind the short wall”. What kind of tool is that? Tobias patiently explained.

Imagine a short wall and stand behind it. Consciously walk over that wall. Stand on the other side of that wall and simply observe what is going on. Observe the dynamics that are occurring on the side of the wall that you just left.

If there is a family argument going on between others, instead of choosing one side, or instead of deciding that you need to be the moderator and the pacifier, simply do not get caught up in that conflict that is occurring. Consciously allow yourself to cross over the short wall. Simply step back. Stand on the other side of the wall. Observe what is going on. Make no judgment of what is going on.

How does this feel to you? To become the detached observer of everything that is happening in your life and around you without judgement?

Take a moment here to reflect on this some more. Just imagine a situation that you recently had where you became emotionally upset. Perhaps it was something that shook you while listening to the news. Or, something that happened while you were working in the office.

Replay this situation in your imagination but now as a detached observer, standing behind the short wall. On your side it is peaceful and you feel balance (especially when you take a deep breath:). What do you see on the other side of the wall? Does this help you to accept things as they are, without judgement?

Practice, practice, practice

When I first heard of this tool, it definitely had a certain appeal to me. It felt good and I started to practice. But, very quickly I noticed how challenging this was in real life situations, i.e. not to become involved or attached to a certain outcome in a situation, but to just observe.

At home, at work, everywhere I was confronted with situations that pushed my buttons, which made it difficult to accept things as they are. But then, eventually, with a lot of conscious practicing I became very proficient at this and it helped me a great deal to keep my balance, even amidst the biggest turmoil.

It was exactly as Tobias described:     

At first, my friends, you may see or feel very little, perhaps nothing. As you continue this discipline within yourself, you will start to see things that we cannot describe for you. You must come to the understandings yourself. There are not words that can convey what you will begin to experience. For each of you it will be a different and personal experience.

When you cross into this space of allowing and accepting, you will begin to understand the dynamics of creation. You will become an observer. You will literally start to see energy patterns around others, around situations. You will start to see beams and patterns of energy.

I invite you to experience this “standing behind the short wall” for yourself and share your experiences with us. What challenges are you experiencing? Does it help you to keep your balance and accept things as they are? Does it benefit you in other ways?

I am looking forward to hear from you and for those who want to read the full channel with Tobias click here.

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1 Response to The Best Tool To Deal With Turmoil

  1. Floor Hennekes says:

    Dear Jan,

    First of all: I use this opportunity to wish you a Happy New Year (with no good intentions ..)!

    Thank you for posting this. I fully subscribe to this approach. I do not follow the method of a short wall, but do try to observe without judgement, not getting caught by emotions. For me one of the key words in this is mildness towards myself and mildness towards others. It is one of the key messages of my regular yoga lessons: to observe myself and feel how I feel without judgement and to feel what certain exercises bring without judging. It helps me to stay calm and balanced and to accept what is.

    Until we meet again, best wishes,


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